Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Infertility and the Holidays--It's Christmas and my arms are empty. Again.

This post was written by our Clinical Directory,Whitney Barrell, LCSW. The original post can be found on her website, here.
Last year you were sitting in the same spot in your home, looking at your tree and thinking to yourself, maybe next year I’ll be sitting here holding a baby. But, then the year goes by and it’s Christmas again and your arms are heavy with the sadness that only infertility can bring.

The holidays are child-centric. Thanksgiving, Hanukkah and Christmas engender images of rosy-cheeked children with their families. Because of this, it can be a difficult time for those of us trying to conceive. It can feel lonely. It can feel sad and isolating, in particular when there is an unsaid expectation that this is “the most wonderful time of the year.”

Friday, November 20, 2015


Ashley and Jake both grew up in Utah, married young at age 23, graduated from college, landed great jobs and dreamed of a future with five children. A year after their wedding, they began trying to conceive. Month after heartbreaking month, the pregnancy tests were negative. 
Pregnancy announcements from friends and family started getting harder to celebrate. Reality began to set in, and with it the realization that they would need medical help in order to grow their family. Jake felt like less of a man for not being able to get his wife pregnant. Ashley felt like less of a woman, wondering what her purpose in life must be if she couldn’t be a mom. She began to sink into a dark depression, feeling like she was losing sight of her lifelong dream of having kids.